Comments on: Underrated Pick-Up Spots & Scenes by Raz

By: Golden Silence

Golden Silence — Mon, 12 Jan 2009 16:47:36 +0000

“Golden Silence: If you approached men that you were interested in with the zeal you break it down to cat-callers you’d have about 1000 boyfriends. How could they say “no” if they were in fear of their lives?

With catcalling men, I don’t care about them and they’re worthless to me, so I have no problem telling them how it is. With men that I actually am interested in, I’m so freaking shy and worried what they’d think of me, so I end up saying nothing.

I wish I did have the confidence to approach guys I like!

By: Kalia

Kalia — Mon, 12 Jan 2009 13:51:50 +0000

yeah I agree, don’t hit on me at the gym. generally I would say bars are not great places for women to meet men, maybe for men to meet women-

I like to meet people through friends, they come with recommendations!

for clubs, I have two suggestions:
1. Petworth Bookclub
2. Arlington Athletic Social League. *sorry this is not in DC, but it is really close! website is http://www.playaasl.com It is a coed social league that has:
football
softball
dodgeball -first game is tomorrow! woooo!!!
billards/darts
volleyball
bowling
bar events (tours, flip cup tournaments, guest bartender events, etc)

I’ve been playing on the same team for 3 years now. When I joined I didn’t know a single person, now they are like a second family. For the ladies, lot’s of the teams are always looking to pick up women mid season!

By: PabloMa

PabloMa — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 20:37:10 +0000

(Why did that rant end up sounding like a match.com profile ad.)

By: PabloMa

PabloMa — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 20:36:25 +0000

… and if you’re a pessimistic bitch who generally hates people (especially in groups), is chubby, and bears a striking resemblence to Daria and the nerd from Ghost World (not the hot one, of course), you will be forever single. No matter if you’re on the metro, in a bar, at the gym, you’ll be forever single.

But don’t worry, your window repair guy will hit on you every. single. time. he comes to fix a window, even if he’s a hillbilly who lives 38734 hours away in York, Pennsylvania.

By: Dr Poopypants

Dr Poopypants — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 14:52:15 +0000

If you were as cute and personable as Raz, these spots would elicit many a date … for Dr Poopypants, not so much …

By: vonstallin

vonstallin — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 00:42:08 +0000

Golden Silence Says:
January 9th, 2009 at 2:30 pm

I do tend to get some new female members come over and conversate with me.

“Conversate” is not a word!

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Von= That reply is a sure fired way not to get ask on a date…sure fired…4 sure…

I thought slang was approved for use on this BBS…No????

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http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/conversate

Conversate – 1 dictionary result
Main Entry: conversate
Part of Speech: v
Definition: to socialize and chat; to converse with another
Etymology: back-formation from conversation
Usage: “Slang”

By: springroadintoaction

springroadintoaction — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 00:20:05 +0000

Because it’s just too damned fitting: http://www.vsocial.com/video/?d=59670

By: Down With the Brown

Down With the Brown — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 23:34:39 +0000

Raz is definitely a woman, and an attractive one at that.

“Anonymous” your “purely word-based crush” is definitely justified.”

To add to the discussion, if you do approach someone at any of these locations, make sure that you say something funny.

Walking up to a woman in the produce section and saying, “Those melons look ripe!” will get you slapped.

On the other hand, a woman asking me, “Are these melons ripe?” would get a smile and a phone number.

By: GSG

GSG — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 22:49:08 +0000

All of these and other so-called “rules” become completely irrelevant if the person you approach finds you attractive. No matter how sweaty or smelly a woman might be at the gym, if the right guy approaches her in the right way, she will have no problem with it. All of that “I’m not here to meet guys” stuff will go right out the window.
It’s like when someone says the reason they don’t date is because they don’t have time. If the right person comes along, you’ll make some time.

By: Oregonian

Oregonian — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 21:37:02 +0000

I think the same is true of women, Nate, provided that they find you attractive.

I’ve got a girlfriend, but my general rule when single was to always be charming, since you never know who you’ll meet. Second rule was to be sure to meet in a context where there’s a bar to entry that guarantees shared interests: classes, friend’s party, volunteering, book clubs, etc.

any crazy person can go to a bar, a gym, or a cafe; in that way, it’s no different than meeting someone on the internet.